Making a decision to adopt is a huge undertaking. The whole focus is to bring a child into your family to love as your own. The problem is the child you adopt has a set of birth parents out there that are linked to the child from conception.
Much as been discussed about the role birth parents play in the lives of adopted children. Conventional wisdom has swung from once believing in complete denial of the birth family to open adoption with even mandated visits to birth family. The prevailing mood of the times seems to dictate what is in the best interest of the child.
I would like to offer a fresh perspective that looks at the contribution of the birth family to the life of the child in a new way. Introducing the art and science of Face Reading.
What is Face Reading?
In the 1930’s Los Angeles Judge Edward Jones observed the behavioural patterns of the people who appeared before him in court. He became so fascinated by his observations that he dropped his judicial work and researched the field using works that were published by Lavater and other notable authors on the subject. Using established scientific principles Jones looked at 200 different facial features, later narrowing the number down to sixty eight. His research had 92% accuracy for personality profiling. Thanks to Judge Jones the new physiognomy became the modern day scientific approach to reading faces.
In addition to the practical uses of face reading, further studies were conducted in San Quentin prison during the 1940’s. Warden Clinton Duffy stated at the time “Many of our men have been helped immeasurably by your staff. It is my hope that in the future we can broaden the scope of this great work.” George H Cantrell noted “As a psychologist having spent many years in vocational counselling we now accomplish in hours better results than we would in days before practicing the principles taught by Judge Jones and his staff.
Judge Jones contribution to the understanding of human nature as it is revealed in the face, took physiognomy to a new level of acceptance, credibility, understanding and application. He applied the physiognomy for jury selection, personal development, improving relationships, understanding children, sales and career assessments.
To many reading faces may sound outlandish, but there is real scientific evidence to support the accuracy of these observations. One cannot ignore confirmation that is staring us in the face. We all read faces anyway making snap judgements based on how people look. The face is full of information so why pretend it does not exist?
Face reading is a tool that will help us to better understand ourselves and be more conscious of our communications and interaction with others. It helps us understand others so that we can learn to listen rather than react or make hasty judgements.
Face reading applies to all cultures there being differences with the flare of the nostrils, protruding lips and wider set eyes. According to optometrists the spacing between the eyes of people with Asian or African descent tends to be ten percent wider than in the western world. These differences are taken into account when determining the significance of any trait.
With the discovery of DNA and genetics, science has established that children inherit their traits from their birth parents. While nurturing can have a tremendous influence on how traits manifest themselves overtime the basic blueprint for who we are comes on the day of conception.
Face reading meticulously examines the features of a person’s face and connects those physical characteristics with personality traits. Since adopted children do not inherit their genes from their legal parents, the chances that the physical traits of the adoptive parents are different from those of the birth parents are high.
What can Face reading do for adopted children and their parents? Face reading opens a window of discovery that allows the child and the parents to learn about the birth parents from a neutral place. There is no right or wrong way to have your eyes placed in your head. It is not better or worse to have a slopped back forehead or a more squared one. There is no value judgement.
Taking measurements of the face of the child and the adoptive parents offers the chance to get to know and understand each other in a whole new light. The child experiences him or herself as being seen and understood and feels a sense of relief in understanding his or her adoptive parents and how to best communicate and engage with each other.
Once the physical traits are linked to personality traits the family is armed with the information to encourage innate strengths and redirect the challenges that are coded in the child’s genes.
What do we know about this picture? This person has low set eyebrows they are friendly and casual, they have a tendency to make physical contact a light touch of the arm or shoulder. They get to know people very quickly. People with the opposite trait high set highbrows maybe discomforted by there over friendliness and invasion of their personal space.
The inverted V on top of the eyebrow indicates a feel for design. They have a natural feel for how things are put together. Interests and possible careers could include Photography, fashion design, engineering or architecture.
They have a full lower lip this indicates a very generous nature. They give freely of their time, money and possessions. This is instinctive and quite often they can over extend themselves. They also find it difficult to receive gifts and others may see them as ungrateful.
Bob Hammett is a trained Personologist, Life Coach and Counsellor. Being an adoptive parent himself he is aware of the many difficulties parents and especially adoptive parents encounter. He feels the knowledge gained from a Face Reading will enhance family relationships.
Face Reading is also used for Relationship enhancement, Career Selection and Sales Training. It is useful in the workplace for both employers and employees especially for teams working on specific projects.
As well as offering personal readings Bob is happy to talk to any group. He also offers one day workshops.